There are few things in the world that make my heart happier than seeing women empowering and encouraging other women. After the flood of messages I received from so many of you in response to my recent note, I am again so incredibly grateful for this community we have built. No matter what season of life you find yourself in, its likely that wherever you go you’re going to need friends.
I can say with absolute certainty that it takes a village…a sisterhood to accomplish just about anything in life! And even if you could do it on your own, why would you want to? Doing life together is simply more fun for all!
But I know, you’ve been told that girls are mean, that girl friendships are complicated or perhaps you protect yourself by being the girl who is friends with all the guys. You keep everyone else at arms length because you’ve been burned in the past.
And I get it. That was me, for years and years.
But I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to go it alone. Sister-friendships are possible and they are absolutely worth fighting for.
So in an effort to raise the sisterhood everywhere, here are my best advices for how to build your community.
If you want to have a true friend, be a true friend.
Be present, be available, be there to listen and slow to speak. Offer help in times of need…real practical help and not just “good vibes” or “prayers”. Those things are great but the moments that have meant the most are when a friend has brought over dinner, vacuumed my floor, held me while I cried or simply shown up to celebrate or acknowledge the highs and lows of life.
Be honest, authentic and vulnerable.
This is the hard part, especially if you have been hurt before. But real community can only exist when you are willing to take the risk and let someone in.
Be a cheerleader
Grab yourself some (metaphorical) pom-poms and shake them like your team just won a trophy.
Being a sister-friend can sometimes mean that you stand on the sidelines while others stand in the sun. Embrace it. Be the person who is an encourager, who celebrates in the triumphs and achievements of others without being threatened that their light will dim your own. It doesn’t; There is room enough for us all to stand in the sun so pass the mic, wave the pom-poms and be a cheerleader for those around you.
Don’t give up
Sister-friendships aren’t perfect, and there’s a good chance you will still have conflict and you may still get hurt. But as with all things in life, the best stuff are the things you have to fight for. And when you are willing to work through the conflict in a respectful way, you will find a depth to your friendships that grows your maturity as a woman and you will always be a better person for it.
So go forth bravely and love your sister-friends fiercely. The world needs more squad goals to aspire to and more women who empower other women both personally and professionally.
I wish you sister – frienships and squad goals and long soul talks over ice cream,
Please give some love to a few of the ladies in MY sisterhood:
Photos by Creative Genius Sasha Blaney Photography
Fellow Blogger Shannon of Adventurous Mama
Entrepreneurial Badass Angela of KEWE Clothing
This post was originally written for GIRL 365, a community full of free Christ-centred resources for teen girls! Be encouraged to live your best life and know that you are loved!