BabyCenter calls it the period of great change, and I couldn’t think of a term more perfectly suited to describing the fourth trimester. From the moment Skyana was born to only a few days ago, we have been fully immersed in the world of the fourth trimester, adjusting to this new little person in our lives and learning how to be a family of four.
By no means have we figured it out yet but we are now in a good rhythm. Part of me is sad that the newborn days are officially behind us but its exciting to watch her little personality start to unfold and witness her learning new things every day. These photos from the day that Skyana was born are such a beautiful reminder of the sweet and slow days that immediately follow after giving birth to a baby. You can even still see the little bits of vernix in her hair!
This time around the fourth trimester was so different. With Chayton I was able to stay in bed all day and watch Netflix while he slept in my arms. This time, with Skyana, I don’t have that option as Chayton is also needing my attention and affirmation throughout the day. Thankfully, we have a lot of family around to help out. I think this is the biggest thing that has made this transition so smooth and I am eternally thankful to our family for getting us through this time so peacefully.
The words “its takes a village” is something I come back to again and again and again. We would not be here, in this healthy and happy place, if it weren’t for the unconditional love and support of family and friends.
My parents, sister and grandmother especially, have gone the distance cooking meals, holding baby, changing diapers or taking Chayton to the park whenever I need a nap, a break or help juggling both babies plus working my job on the side.
This little girl knows she is loved. Chayton knows he is loved. And through the last few months, I have been shown time and time again, that Chris and I are loved as well.
Having a community is so important during the fourth trimester. You need people to support you as a fresh, postpartum mother; caring for yourself, and having others help care for you is just as important as caring for a new baby.
Caring for your mental, emotional and spiritual health in postpartum is just as important as caring for your physical health after birth.
Knowing that you are loved and supported, giving yourself grace and getting a break to do something just for you is paramount to keeping your mental and emotional well-being in the fourth trimester.
I still have days when I don’t know how I’m going to do it all but even when the days are full and finding balance is hard, I’m incredibly grateful that I get to be their mama.
Photos by Olivia Ann Photography